How to end a situationship when you’ve outgrown it

The end is inevitable.

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Many of us can spend a lot of time with someone, make memories, and build a bond—to just be able to walk away like nothing happened. For some people, it’s as simple as erasing the chalk off the board, and then there are some of us, who get attached to memories that we made—moments when a little hug from them made all the difference, moments that were captured on the camera, and moments that cannot be ever recreated. Your heart grows fond of them and they become one of the core people of your life. From sharing everything with them to cuddling with them at the end of the day—they start to feel like home. 

Sounds like a beautiful relationship, right? Except that you were not in one; it was a situationship. It involved feelings but no labels. It had some sort of an undefined exclusivity, and you guys had a way of making an entry like a non-couple couple at every social gathering. 

But situationships often come with an expiry date—they either turn into a full-fledged relationship or just end. There are chances one person may start wanting more and the other may not. Ending a situationship can be challenging, but it's important to prioritise your emotional well-being and seek a relationship that aligns with your needs and desires. 

Here are some steps to consider when ending a situationship.

Reflect on your feelings

Take some time to reflect on your own emotions and evaluate what you truly want from a relationship. If the situationship is not fulfilling your needs or is causing you distress, it may be time to end it.

Be honest with yourself

Acknowledge your feelings and be honest about why you want to end the situationship. It could be due to a lack of commitment, unfulfilled expectations, or simply feeling emotionally unbalanced. Understanding your reasons will help you communicate effectively with the other person.

Communicate your intentions

Have a conversation with your situationship partner. Choose a calm and appropriate setting to discuss your feelings. Be honest, clear, and compassionate while expressing your decision to end the situationship. Avoid blaming or criticising the other person, and focus on your own emotions and needs.

Set boundaries

After expressing your decision to end the situationship, it's essential to establish clear boundaries. Communicate your expectations around the level of contact you are comfortable maintaining and whether you want to remain friends. Setting boundaries helps both parties navigate the transition and protects your emotional well-being.

Take time for self-care

Ending any kind of relationship, even a situationship, can bring about a range of emotions. Take time for self-care and prioritise your well-being during this transition. Lean on your support system, engage in activities that bring you joy, and focus on personal growth.

Stay firm in your decision

It's common for the other person in the situationship to try to persuade you to continue or make promises to change. While it's important to listen to their perspective, stay firm in your decision if you believe it's the right choice for you. Remember your reasons for ending the situationship and prioritise your happiness.

Seek support if needed

If ending the situationship becomes emotionally challenging or if you find it difficult to move forward, consider seeking support from trusted friends, family, or even a therapist. They can provide guidance, perspective, and help you navigate through the process.