Sex resolutions you need to make for a pleasurable 2023
Practising gratitude and gratification this year!
While sex is the most natural part of our lives, it is often the least spoken of. We hardly hear of families and even friends talking about their sexual selves, openly. This is also often the reason that you end up feeling alone in experiences that are, as a matter of fact, shared.
According to Medical News Today, sexual satisfaction can result in better heart health, reduced stress (we could really use this!) as well as relationship improvement. It elevates your mood, helps you sleep better and improves your immunity. What’s not to love here? However, the question remains, are we sex-ing right? How do we improve our relationship with sex?
As we are at the start of a new year, let’s take a few sex resolutions that will help us feel more content and happier—in a relationship or not.
Talk about sex
A 2019 study on sexual satisfaction says that couples who communicated openly about their sex lives experienced heightened intimacy. You need to discuss the sex you are having and not having. This year, resolve to talk about what you like, what you don’t like and what you absolutely love! Remember, it’s a two-way street and it means you will have to be able to swallow the hard pill when it comes down to it.
Try something new
Do you have a fantasy or curiosity about a kink that’s always just been there? This year, promise yourself to try new things and be adventurous. Don’t let biases or fear of judgment stop you from having new and varied sexual experiences. You deserve it!
Never fake an orgasm
According to a survey conducted in 2019 by a sexual wellness brand, around 70 per cent of women in India had never experienced the bliss of an orgasm. Seven out of 10 women had faked an orgasm for varied reasons, the most common being to protect their partner’s feelings. But where is that taking us? Definitely not to pleasureville! If you’re guilty of this, resolve to never fake an orgasm. Instead, help your partner understand your body better and moan, only if you are truly coming!
Say no when it’s not a sure yes
The thing about consent is that if it’s a ‘no’, it’s not a ‘yes’. If it’s a ‘maybe’, it’s still not a ‘yes’. So don’t pressure yourself or allow anyone else to pressure you into having sex when you are still unsure. This should, in fact, be the most important one on your list of resolutions.
Make your space sex-conducive
Do you know what kills the libido the most? When you cannot find the couch under a pile of clothes. Or when you end up accidentally lying down on the remote control while sexing it up. De-clutter your space and make it sex-ready. Have mood lighting, candles and a nice sheet—all waiting for you to get some. If you’re single and don’t have a date coming over, you can also use the ambience to indulge in some ‘self-love’.
