How to surprise your partner this Valentine’s Day, based on their love language
Give them love, in their love language.
Love is when you don’t consciously have to think about their interest; it comes naturally to you. Of course, it doesn’t mean you become a doormat and let a person walk all over you; there’s a difference between having a martyr complex and caring about the other person.
It means that you should show love not just in the way you understand it but also in the way they do. In the end, your goal is to make them feel special. So this Valentine’s Day, surprise your partner, based on their love language.
There are five love languages: Words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. If you’re looking to give your partner butterflies and feel loved, here’s what you can do to surprise them.
Words of affirmation
People whose love language is ‘words of affirmation’ are those who love a relationship which involves a lot of verbal expressions. They love it when you tell them how much they mean to you and how they brighten up your world. Materialistic gifts make them happy but reassurance makes their soul sing. If this sounds like your partner, give them exactly what they want—words of love. Go old school and write them a love letter, expressing how you truly feel about them. Let it be simple and honest. Chances are they will give you a dozen kisses, right after wiping off their tears of joy.
Quality time
The two of you can simply lie down in your pyjamas, talk for hours, and feel like you’ve had the best date ever. When you’re not able to give them quality time, they start feeling a little bit sangry. Clearly, your partner’s love language is ‘quality time’ and this Valentine’s Day, you should sweep them off their feet with plenty of that. Plan a no-phone date where you give them your undivided attention. Plan multiple activities—a trek and camping, a staycation, or a movie followed by a nice dinner.
Physical touch
Someone whose love language is 'physical touch' will never ever get enough of it from their partner. There’s always room for more hugs, an extra kiss, and a few more minutes of cuddling. Surprise them by planning a nice staycation so you can give them affection, without worrying about being in public. Go for a nice walk, holding hands. Kiss them in the pool. Cuddle with them while watching a movie. Gift them the cologne you wear so they can smell you on them, even when you’re not around.
Acts of service
For them, love is all about making each other’s life easier, showing kindness and just doing sweet, little acts of service. It’s not a one-way street where they expect you to pick up their laundry. You will find them making you soup when you’re sick or brightening up your day with your favourite dessert when you’re down in the dumps. If that sounds like your partner, cook them a nice meal, treat them to a spa and get them a gift that they need. For instance, if their earphones look like they’ve seen a lot, buy them a pair. Make them a work playlist if they like listening to music while working. Or wake them up with their favourite breakfast. They will love it!
Receiving gifts
They love the gifts, not because they are materialistic but because they love the fact that you put so much time and effort into finding the right one. Shower them with presents. They don’t care about what they need, but the fact that you thought of them! Chances are, they hold on to every big or small gift you’ve given to them like it’s an artefact!