5 signs you've outgrown your childhood friendship

From Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara to Kho Gaye Hum Kahan, the tales of childhood friendships lasting forever seem like an anthem to our hearts. But let’s face it, the ‘forever’ in ‘friends forever’ sometimes feels like an overstayed visit. While we do wish to hold onto our childhood friendships, especially in the digital age, there are moments when even a seven-minute-catch up feels like a marathon of mismatched moments. If you feel the same way, here are some indicators that you have outgrown your childhood friendship. 

Navigating different value streams

If you find that your values have diverged from those of your childhood friend, it might be a sign that you have grown apart. Our values are our compass and when they no longer point in the same direction, it can be challenging to journey together. 

Energy check

Do you feel invigorated or drained after spending time with them? Friends should leave you feeling energised and not have you looking for an excuse to leave. If you’re constantly making excuses to avoid them, it might be time to explore new social landscapes. 

Mirror of authenticity

Friendships should be a space where you can be your truest self. If you’re concealing parts of your personality or you are unable to share your feelings freely, it might signal that the friendship is no longer a fit for the person you’ve become. 

Past vs. present

A friendship anchored solely in nostalgia, without room for present growth, might mean you've outgrown the dynamic. It's important to cultivate friendships that flourish and support you to become the best version of yourself instead of pulling you back. While a little nostalgia is healthy to keep the child in you alive, beware of it becoming a habit.

Balancing the scales

Friendship is a two-way street. If you find yourself making all the effort—planning, reaching out, and keeping the connection alive—it's a sign that the friendship might be leaning too heavily on you. 

It's never easy to admit that you might've outgrown your childhood best friend. They have been privy to all the moments of your life. You might want to have a conversation with them first instead of ghosting them entirely. But if you see yourself being disappointed time and again, then it's time to swallow the bitter pill, and accept the end of that relationship. 

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